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It’s funnier when people just don’t get it!
 
Becoming a grandparent for the first time was a real challenge about what I was going to be called! “Grandfather” soundsgrump far too formal; “Grandad” sounds a bit old-fashioned; “Grumps” was what my Father-in-Law was called by my children; “G.D.” was what they called my father, because he thought it sounded “cool” (which, sadly, he wasn’t!); “Pops” & all the other names didn’t “pass muster” and so I opted for “Grumpy”…hopefully because I’m not!

Though it does cause questions and raised eye-brows for my grandchildren at school when they’re asked about their family, it did bring a lump to my throat when one of them (when they were very small!) wrote that their best friends were “Grumpy” and “Orry” (don’t ask!). Mind you, my children (I think!) are pleased because there are numerous t-shirts, socks, models, mugs and so forth with “Grumpy” (one of the 7 dwarfs from “Snow White”) on them.

In fact, I’m drinking my coffee from a “Grumpy” mug even as I type this, which says, “I’m not GRUMPY, I’m just surrounded by people who are too HAPPY!” (you may have spotted it when we’ve “Zoomed” a service or a meeting!).
 
I started with “It’s funnier when people just don’t get it!”, because it is! People often say, “Why do your grandchildren call you ‘Grumpy’ when you’re not!”; sticking up for me (for which I’m grateful) but missing the whole point!
 
But, seriously, really grumpy people can be annoying. Tetchy people can be difficult to cope with. And touchy people can be very wearing as we “pussy-foot” around them.
 
Is it just me, or have we all become a bit more grumpy, tetchy and touchy over the last few months? I seem to have spent a lot of my time recently trying to patch up strained or broken relationships, giving support to those who have been hurt by the comments of others or “picking up the pieces” from the hurt someone has caused… in some cases resulting in the recipient distancing themselves from the church family.
 
Strangely, I see this as one of the results of Covid. People have been “locked down”, masked, forbidden from seeing friends and relatives, excluded from visiting loved ones who were ill or dying in hospital or care homes, and sometimes just being unable to get out and about as they wanted. This has made people grumpy, tetchy and touchy (and grouchy!) not just in annoying, but sometimes destructive ways.  
 
Not surprisingly, the word “grumpy” doesn’t appear in the Bible, but there are many verses which come close… such as in Paul’s letter to the Church at Philippi (2:14-16), “Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation’. Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life.”

As Christians we should be an example to others of the right way to behave with and to one another. And, if we find that hard at the present time, remember that we don’t do it in our own strength, if we allow God’s Holy Spirit to shine in us and through us others will see the fruit of the Spirit in us, which is “love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).
 


kevin for rector writes   The Revd Kevin Ashby
 
 
 

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